Friday, October 7, 2011

A LAST LESSON FROM MOM

This picture was taken on Dec. 23rd, 2010, my Mom didn't get diagnosed until four months later even though it was obvious to everyone that something was really wrong and had been for months.

On Sunday I will be embarking on the hardest trip I've had to take back home in the 22 years I've been living in Toronto.

My Mother was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer on April 22nd of this year after being sick and misdiagnosed for many, many months. When I flew down at that time so I could be with her before and after her surgery I was running on adrenaline and shock, and didn't really have time to process what was happening until I returned back to Toronto.

I am also very aware that this may very well be the last time I see my Mother on this side of the veil. That's a bitter pill to swallow, but it is what it is, and I am trying to deal with that. I haven't been very good emotionally since I returned, the stress and worry takes a toll. Other then work and nature outings with Rob, I haven't been going out much and keeping pretty much to myself.

My Mother hasn't been living at home since her diagnoses and is currently in a nursing home in New Glasgow, while she waits for a bed in Truro, closer to her friends and family. I will be staying at a motel within walking distance while I am there and also will be spending a couple days with my Dad in Truro. Never in my 42 years did I think I would be visiting my parents in different towns.

I'm trying to look at this trip to see Mom as a gift. Though she no longer has the use of her legs, and her memory is going, she still remembers her friends and family, something the disease will eventually take. A lot of people who lose someone always wish for "one more day", I'm getting that chance, getting to spend a few days with her one more time.

When I get back from this trip I'm really going to push myself to start living my life again, like I did before Mom got sick. It's taken me a while to sort out in my head that living my life, while my Mother loses her's isn't disrespectful to her, but a way to honour her. Yeah, the whole situation sucks, but me sitting around a depressed mess waiting for the inevitable isn't helping me or my Mother, and I don't want to do that anymore, that isn't the kind of daughter my Mother raised.

Oh, I know I will still have hard days, the hardest day yet to come, but I think surrounding myself with my friends here in Toronto, the people who care about me, will give me the strength I need to carry me through the hardest time in my life.

My Mother taught me a lot of lessons growing up, isn't it ironic that the greatest life lesson she's taught me comes at the end of hers; Life is precious and short, live it, no regrets.

I know what I will be thankful for this Thanksgiving.

Sunday, October 2, 2011

WINGING IT WEEKEND

"Our Tree" is along Highway 27, and we make a point to take a drive to see it every Fall.

This weekend we didn't have plans set in stone, so we just kinda "winged it".

Saturday morning we decided to head out for brunch to one of our favorite places, "Cora's".

I had one of their Fall specials, caramelized onion, spinach and cheddar eggs benedict.

I always have a side of fried bologna!

After we left Cora's we headed to Pine Farms, a place I found out about by reading another blog and wanted to visit.

They offer "pick your own" apples or you can buy them already picked. They also sell homemade baked goods, unique items for inside or outside your home and even a small quantity of wines from their own winery. I would go back there, as it's a nice little drive out of the city. I left with a baked apple pie, a bar of homemade lavender soap and a jar of Chipotle Lime Mustard.

Pine Farm located in King City, just outside of Toronto.

Meet "Elvis" and "Costello", a pair Muscovey Ducks that live at Pine Farm. These ducks are well known for their fly catching abilities.

After we left the farm we headed up the 400 highway a little way where we went to the Cookstown Outlet Mall. I bought one of my nieces an outfit for Christmas and something I've been thinking about buying for a while, a Coach purse.

My new purse!

After we left the mall we decided to take Highway 27 on the way home to see "our tree". It is a beautiful tree we noticed in the Fall of 2004, our first one together, and we try to go see it every Fall season.

Saturday night was a quiet evening in, sharing a bottle of wine and relaxing in front of the TV.

Sunday morning we had hopes of going birding but the weather didn't cooperate. We headed out in the morning anyway and ran a few errands after a quick breakfast at McDonald's. After returning home we had a little nap and "puttered" the afternoon away at home.

New rubber boots for both of us were purchased this morning, needed for birding!

Channeling my inner Martha Stewart while I decorate our home for the Fall season.

I've had a beef vegetable soup cooking in the slow cooker all day and the house smells delish. Curling up on the couch to watch "Bridesmaids", a highly recommended comedy is how we plan to end our weekend.

Saturday, October 1, 2011

FOODIE FRIDAY - OYSTERS, AGAIN!!

My fellow "oyster snob", Anita.

Last night I met my friend Anita for my first visit to Oyster Boy, I had heard very good things about this restaurant and was not disappointed.

Two dozen to start, Malpeques, and the waitress gave us two Green Gables to try. Look at Anita's hand, she can't wait to dig in!

Best Onion Rings Ever!

Round Two! One dozen of Maleques and one dozen of Green Gables, we liked them.

Stompin Tom watched over us while we enjoyed the wonderful food and conversation.

Would you like a little horseradish or lemon on your oyster? I like mine with a little lemon.

For dessert I had "oyster stew", it was delicious, and very rich.

Anita was pretty stressed out from a bad day at work when she first arrived, but after a couple drinks and some oysters, all was well with the world again. We'll be back to Oyster Boy, but have a few more oyster places to check out first.

Monday, September 26, 2011

THE OWL FOUNDATION

Here I am with Kay McKeever, who has been working with owls since 1965. The foundation, which she co-founded with her late husband, Larry, became a registered charity in 1975. This woman is a "Rock Star" in the birding world, and it was a true honour to meet her.

This past Saturday, Rob and I, along with our friends, Jim and Lynda, visited the "Owl Foundation" in Vineland, Ontario. It was the first time for all of us. I had heard about this organization a couple years ago, but it wasn't until this past spring that I actually took the time to sit down and read about them. What I read blew my mind!! You can read all about this incredible organization here.

The work that they do there is truly amazing, but the one thing that stands out for me and I tell anyone who will listen, is about the "Foster Parent Owls". They actually have wild owls there, that due to injuries cannot be released back to the wild, but can act as foster parents to young injured and orphaned owls!! Let me paint you a picture. A young orphaned owl is brought into the Toronto Wildlife Centre, it is then sent to The Owl Foundation, where after it is checked out, is placed with a foster parent owl of the same species, who teaches the young owl how to eat, hunt, fly, groom, basically be an owl, so in time it can be released back to the wild in the vicinity where it was found!!! Isn't that amazing!!!???

This resident female Great Horned Owl played Mom to 14 young Great Horned Owls this spring alone! They will be released next spring.

The Owl Foundation isn't open to the public, as it's a rehabilitation centre, not a zoo, and the less interaction with humans, the better. But, every Fall, as it's the least stressful time for owls, sponsors are invited for a tour on a date and time given by the foundation. For my birthday this year I sponsored a male resident Snowy Owl named Chinook. I was very excited about seeing my sponsor owl and visiting the foundation in general.


Before the tour started, a list of resident owls that had passed away from old age or disease recently was read. I was devastated to hear Chinook's name. When your emotions are running high all the time due to the fact that your Mother is slowly dying of a terminal illness, it doesn't take much to set you off. So, there I was, standing with a group of strangers crying over an owl that I never even got to lay eyes on, who had died only 5 days before.

A carving of a wooden owl on the foundation's grounds.

I pulled myself together and the tour started. I was truly impressed with this place, and how the enclosures are arranged. A lot of them are screen covered to keep mosquitoes out, as West Nile is a huge threat to the birds. Some of the larger enclosures even open up through-out giving the birds more fly space and the chance to form bonds and mate with other resident owls of their choosing.

Two Eastern Screech Owls peeking out through the cedars in their enclosure.

I was happy to hear that my own Chinook had formed a bond with another snowy owl named Winnie, and that they had successfully had young which were able to be released into the wild. Chinook and Winnie were together for 8 years. Winnie passed away on July 16th of this year and Kay believes that Chinook died of a broken heart, just a little over 2 months later. Though it was shown that Chinook died of a blood parasite, being depressed over the death of his mate probably depleted his immune system and it sounds much more romantic.

We got to see many Great Gray Owls, what big beautiful birds they are! We had not seen one before, so it was really thrilling for us.

These 2 juvenile Great Gray Owls will be released in the spring of 2012.

I love how expressive the Great Gray's face is, so wide-eyed and curious.

Rob actually captured the "twinkle" in his eye.

The last stop on the tour was "the house", where Kay McKeever lived, and still does, though the house is now property of the foundation, as the foundation is set up and will carry on without Kay. There is a monitoring room in the house where all the birds can be watched on live video screens. They have very little human interaction here to keep them wild. The house is full of owl stuff! Lot's of Robert Bateman paintings adorn the walls, a good friend of Kay's.

A plaque of the foundation's logo adorns one of the walls in the house.

The most interesting thing in the house without a doubt is "Big Bird", a Great Gray Owl who lives in the house, not in a cage, but on a perch in the sun-room for the day, while cats snooze nearby in the sunny room. I hear the cats are scared of Big Bird and leave him alone. Big Bird is not an human imprint, but has brain damage and is blind in one eye, so he gets to live out his final years in the comfort of the house. After seeing so many owls in enclosures, it came as a pleasant surprise to see this Owl out in the open like he was, enjoying the sunshine in the brightly lit sun-room.

Introducing "Big Bird", a Great Gray Owl.

After much photo taking of Big Bird we were taken to the "monitoring room" where we got to meet the lady herself, Kay McKeever, who still watches the owls on the wall of live monitors and takes notes on their behavior.

Rob stayed behind to talk to Kay, who at 87 is still spry, while I went to purchase a few things, and then went back to talk to Kay a little bit more myself.

Rob and Kay, they had quite the chat while I was doing some purchasing of raffle tickets to support the foundation.

I told her that it was my dream to retire, move to the area, and volunteer there and one day we will. But in the mean time, Rob's already signed up as a volunteer driver to transport injured owls.

I encourage you all to learn more about this amazing organization and the lady who dedicated her life to helping the owls.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

ROB'S GRAND BIRTHDAY ADVENTURE - THE END

Views like this are common in the Algonquin area.

We enjoyed our last morning at the B & B watching the many different birds flying around. We were delighted to see a "Yellow-Bellied Sapsucker". It was only the second time we had. And it turned out there were two!

A Yellow-bellied Sapsucker, they really do exist!

After leaving the B & B we did two short trails in Algonquin before heading home, The Logging Museum Trail, and Whiskey Rapids. You could tell it was the weekend as both trails were busier then we had experienced, but still enjoyable.

We stopped in Huntsville for a late lunch, early dinner. I finally got to go to "3 Guys and a Stove". I had been wanting to go there for a few years.

Sweet potato and pumpkin soup to start, it was soooo good!

My main, jumbo shrimp wrapped in prosciutto in a cream sauce. It was DELICIOUS!

White chocolate cheesecake wrapped in phyllo pastry for dessert, we shared.

It was totally worth the wait, I just hope I don't have to wait as long for a return visit.

3 Guys and a Stove in Huntsville, Ontario.

And so ends "Rob's Grand Birthday Adventure", it was so much fun, you'd think it was MY birthday!

ROB'S GRAND BIRTHDAY ADVENTURE - PART THREE

Our shadows enjoyed an extremely full day in Algonquin Park.

After a bit of birding around our B & B we set off for a full day in Algonquin Park. The first trail we did was "Beaver Pond."

We saw many beaver dams while on the trail, but no beavers this trip.

Golden Crown Kinglets were sighted.

We spotted a Great Blue Heron looking for breakfast.

The scenery on this trail was stunning and I look forward to hiking it again.

It was such a peaceful, beautiful hike.

Did you know that Beavers and Humans are the only 2 species that can change the landscape to suit their own purpose?

After "Beaver Pond Trail" we visited the Visitor Centre" again where we became "Friends of Algonquin Park" and checked out the sightings board. Then we were off to "Peck Lake Trail".

A Black-Throated Blue Warbler was spotted almost as soon as we entered the trail.

Again, the scenery was stunning.

By the end of this trail I was famished, so we headed off to the "Portage Store" by Canoe Lake to have our picnic lunch. It was here that we saw and heard our first Loon of the trip.

A parade of Common Mergansers kept us entertained during our picnic lunch.

After lunch we went to the back area of "Mizzy Lake Trail" where we had all sorts of surprises. First, we got to hand feed some Gray Jays!!

Rob having fun with a Gray Jay.

Hand feeding Gray Jays is my favorite thing about visiting Algonquin Park.


Such a pretty bird, they always look like they are smiling.

The second surprise was running into our friend and fellow birder, Ann and her friend Janice on the trail. They showed us our first and only lifer of the weekend, "Boreal Chickadees".

Boreal Chickadee, photo taken by Ann Brokelman

After all the fun of chasing the Boreal Chickadees around we walked further down the trail to where Ann and Janice had saw a couple young bull moose the day before. No moose, but Rob and I continued further along the trail after saying goodbye to Ann and Janice and saw what we were informed is a rare sighting, a Spruce Grouse. This was the second time we had seen one in the park.

A young male Spruce Grouse.

After walking back and stopping to feed the Gray Jays again we headed to Arowhon Pines where we had dinner reservations. Arowhon Pines is a "rustic resort" situated right in Algonquin Park.

Enjoying a lemonade on the wrap around porch before dinner.

The "heritage lodge" where breakfast, lunch and dinner is served to the guests is open to the public if room allows. The six sided cathedral ceiling log cabin over-looks a lake and features a huge fire place in the middle of the room.

Our table for the evening over looked the lake where we could watch the Loons.

The dining room was charming.

The huge fireplace in the centre of the dining room.

Dinner consisted of a wide variety of appetizers, and desserts set up on big buffet tables. You picked from four hot entrees, which change nightly, and soup of the night. It was a lot of food, but at $70 per person, plus tax, added on 15% gratuity AND bring your own wine, there should be.

Dinner was good, and I was glad we went, but I don't know if I'd go back. I'd rather it be a little less pricey, with a little less choice. But, it was nice to have our dinner in such a beautiful building watching the Loons swim by in the lake.

They brought Rob a cupcake because they knew it was his birthday.

After dinner we headed back to the B & B where the owner and his wife invited us to sit outside with them by a fire under a star filled sky. It was a lovely way to finish an amazing day before we fell into bed exhausted from out outing hoping to hear the howling wolves, which we did.

And the story continues for one more day.